After searching online for an example of a ceremony to give to our Officiant (Kim Bashor from Hitching Hearts) of how we wanted our secular wedding to be, and basically coming up with nothing that we liked. Nothing seemed to say what I wanted to say and since Ceelyn and are both Atheists I decided to write our ceremony myself.
Feel free to use it if you are having a hard time with your own ceremony. 🙂
Note- our ceremony lasted about 15 minutes.
We are here today to celebrate the marriage of Ceelyn and Carolyn. We come together, not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize a bond that already exists. This ceremony is a public affirmation of that bond.
Ceelyn and Carolyn, marriage is a precious gift; a lifelong dedication to love and a daily challenge to love one another more fully and more freely.
May the sun bring you new energy by day.
May the moon softly restore you by night.
May the rain wash away your worries.
And may your lives be long and full of happiness.
Let your love be stronger than your anger.
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.
Look for the best in your beloved, rather than the worst.
Confide in each other and ask for help when you need it.
Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.
And say “I love you” every day.
The Vows (Kim) You may now exchange your vows.
[Ceelyn]… There are more stars in the cosmos than all the grains of sand on Earth, every footstep taken by every human who has ever existed, and every word ever muttered, COMBINED. …and I was lucky enough to find you in all of that!
Carolyn, I love you. It’s not just one thing, it’s everything. It’s the little things. You’re the most loving, compassionate person I’ve ever met. You take care of things… you take care of me, and I appreciate it.
Today you become my wife. And from this day forward I promise to be the best version of me that I can be. I will always be the one you can count on. I promise to love you faithfully and unconditionally, until the last breath I take.
[Carolyn]… I never knew it was possible to be so in love with someone, until you came into my life. I really do feel like the luckiest girl in the whole universe! You are the half that makes me whole, and without you I couldn’t function.
Ceelyn, I love you. I love everything about you! You are the smartest, most talented person I know. I love how passionate and focused you are. You are my best friend, and the one I want to grow old with. I’m so proud that I get to be your wife!
From this day forward, I promise to be the best version of me that I can be. I will always be the one you can count on. I promise to love you faithfully and unconditionally, until the last breath I take.
The Ring Exchange:
May I have the rings please? These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love that the two of you share. Freely given; love has no beginning and no end. May these rings always remind you of the love you share and the vows you have promised to each other.
[Ceelyn] This ring symbolizes my desire that you be my wife from this day forward. Will you accept it? (Carolyn) I will.
[Carolyn] This ring symbolizes my desire that you be my husband from this day forward. Will you accept it? (Ceelyn) I will.
Closing and Announcement:
Nothing is easier than saying words, and nothing is harder than living them day by day. What you promise today must be renewed and re-decided each and every day. Real love is something beyond the warmth and glow, and beyond the excitement and romance of being in love. It is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your partner as you do about your own. It is looking outward in the same direction, together. Love makes burdens lighter, because you divide them. It makes joys greater, because you share them. Love makes you stronger, so you can reach out and become involved with life in ways you dared not risk alone.
Your love is as the sea, constant and ever-changing. Your love is as the wind, rapturous and all encompassing. Your love is as the earth, solid and firm. Your love is as a flame, illuminating your lives and warming your hearts.
Yet your love extends beyond the sea, wind, earth and flame. It is greater than who you are and meaningless without you. It is more powerful than your past, yet the foundation for your future. It has brought you here today to become one in the eyes of your family and friends, for all the days to come. Your love is the essence of your lives.
Ceelyn & Carolyn, I would like to share with you, a quote by Dante Alighieri…
In that book
Which is my memory
On the first page
That is the chapter when I first met you
Appear the words
Here begins a new life.
Carolyn and Ceelyn, It brings me great joy to say,
By the power vested in me by the State of New Mexico, I now pronounce you husband and wife.
Congratulations Ceelyn, you may now kiss your bride!
Ladies and gentlemen…it gives me pleasure to introduce for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. Ceelyn Patterson.
Before the ceremony we had beautiful orchestra music playing. It was from the different Final Fantasy soundtracks, performed by Tour de Japon. For about 30 minutes before we started the ceremony, as people were arriving, we played Dear Friends, Fisherman’s Horizon, Theme of Love, Love Grows, Zanarkand, and Aerith’s Theme. Then I edited a clip from The Main Theme of FF VII to walk down the aisle to.
(all these songs are available for purchase on Amazon.)
If you need to edit music, there is a great program you can download for free called Audacity.